Manners for Men

<h2><SPAN name="IN_CHURCH" id="IN_CHURCH"></SPAN><i>IN CHURCH.</i></h2> <div class="sidenote">On arriving late at church.</div> <p class="nind"><span class="smcap">I know</span> a young man who makes it a practice to arrive late in church every Sunday. I often wish that he did not go to my church, for he makes me cordially despise him, thus disturbing the calm and quiet of the proper frame of mind for Sundays. I conclude that he likes to be looked at, though why he should do so is not apparent. It is, in fact, not only rude, but irreverent, to be late in church for the beginning of the service. If one should be accidentally late, it is good manners to wait till the congregation rises from the kneeling posture before making one’s way to a seat. It is almost an awful thing to interrupt a prayer. But I have seen people do it with no more scruple than if they were passing in a crowded street.</p> <div class="sidenote">On the space one may occupy.</div> <p>Eighteen inches are the measurement of space allowed to each sitter in the churches. In some it may be more; in others it may be less. But I have reason to believe that this is the average. Now, if any man of extra size should find himself in a pew with other persons, he must, in<span class="pagenum"><SPAN name="page_146" id="page_146"></SPAN>{146}</span> common courtesy, keep himself as well within the limits of eighteen inches as the width of his shoulders will allow. But I have occasionally seen quite slim young men sprawl far beyond the frontier lines.</p> <div class="sidenote">Lounging.</div> <p>Lounging is a habit of the day, and there are men who get themselves into marvellously corkscrew attitudes, in church as elsewhere.</p> <div class="sidenote">Fidgety men.</div> <p>Fidgety men are more so in church than anywhere else. They seem to find it impossible to keep still. Sometimes they even produce a cough wherewith to amuse themselves, though they are not troubled with it at any other time. The charm of a reposeful manner is denied to them. Reverence for the sacred place conduces to a quiet manner; but this is not always felt by those who attend public worship.</p> <div class="sidenote">The conventional idea of church attendance.</div> <p>The conventional idea seems to be that such assemblies are merely phases of social life; that it is respectable to be seen there; and that the service and the sermon are things to be worried through in deference to a prevalent idea that they form part of an institution that is generally regarded as excellent.</p> <div class="sidenote">The true light to regard the services in.</div> <p>The small minority are those who regard church services in their true light as lifting the thoughts above earthly things, and yet by no means unfitting<span class="pagenum"><SPAN name="page_147" id="page_147"></SPAN>{147}</span> them for earth. Where, for instance, could a better law of good manners be found than in the Book of Books? A glance at the end of the fourth chapter of Ephesians will show a code of conduct that, if followed, would make a man a perfect member of society.<span class="pagenum"><SPAN name="page_148" id="page_148"></SPAN>{148}</span></p> <div style="break-after:column;"></div><br />