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<h2> CHAPTER 9. Our Relations and Theirs </h2>
<p>What I'm trying to show here is that with these women the whole
relationship of life counted in a glad, eager growing-up to join the ranks
of workers in the line best loved; a deep, tender reverence for one's own
mother—too deep for them to speak of freely—and beyond that,
the whole, free, wide range of sisterhood, the splendid service of the
country, and friendships.</p>
<p>To these women we came, filled with the ideas, convictions, traditions, of
our culture, and undertook to rouse in them the emotions which—to us—seemed
proper.</p>
<p>However much, or little, of true sex-feeling there was between us, it
phrased itself in their minds in terms of friendship, the one purely
personal love they knew, and of ultimate parentage. Visibly we were not
mothers, nor children, nor compatriots; so, if they loved us, we must be
friends.</p>
<p>That we should pair off together in our courting days was natural to them;
that we three should remain much together, as they did themselves, was
also natural. We had as yet no work, so we hung about them in their forest
tasks; that was natural, too.</p>
<p>But when we began to talk about each couple having "homes" of our own,
they could not understand it.</p>
<p>"Our work takes us all around the country," explained Celis. "We cannot
live in one place all the time."</p>
<p>"We are together now," urged Alima, looking proudly at Terry's stalwart
nearness. (This was one of the times when they were "on," though presently
"off" again.)</p>
<p>"It's not the same thing at all," he insisted. "A man wants a home of his
own, with his wife and family in it."</p>
<p>"Staying in it? All the time?" asked Ellador. "Not imprisoned, surely!"</p>
<p>"Of course not! Living there—naturally," he answered.</p>
<p>"What does she do there—all the time?" Alima demanded. "What is her
work?"</p>
<p>Then Terry patiently explained again that our women did not work—with
reservations.</p>
<p>"But what do they do—if they have no work?" she persisted.</p>
<p>"They take care of the home—and the children."</p>
<p>"At the same time?" asked Ellador.</p>
<p>"Why yes. The children play about, and the mother has charge of it all.
There are servants, of course."</p>
<p>It seemed so obvious, so natural to Terry, that he always grew impatient;
but the girls were honestly anxious to understand.</p>
<p>"How many children do your women have?" Alima had her notebook out now,
and a rather firm set of lip. Terry began to dodge.</p>
<p>"There is no set number, my dear," he explained. "Some have more, some
have less."</p>
<p>"Some have none at all," I put in mischievously.</p>
<p>They pounced on this admission and soon wrung from us the general fact
that those women who had the most children had the least servants, and
those who had the most servants had the least children.</p>
<p>"There!" triumphed Alima. "One or two or no children, and three or four
servants. Now what do those women DO?"</p>
<p>We explained as best we might. We talked of "social duties,"
disingenuously banking on their not interpreting the words as we did; we
talked of hospitality, entertainment, and various "interests." All the
time we knew that to these large-minded women whose whole mental outlook
was so collective, the limitations of a wholly personal life were
inconceivable.</p>
<p>"We cannot really understand it," Ellador concluded. "We are only half a
people. We have our woman-ways and they have their man-ways and their
both-ways. We have worked out a system of living which is, of course,
limited. They must have a broader, richer, better one. I should like to
see it."</p>
<p>"You shall, dearest," I whispered.</p>
<p>"There's nothing to smoke," complained Terry. He was in the midst of a
prolonged quarrel with Alima, and needed a sedative. "There's nothing to
drink. These blessed women have no pleasant vices. I wish we could get out
of here!"</p>
<p>This wish was vain. We were always under a certain degree of watchfulness.
When Terry burst forth to tramp the streets at night he always found a
"Colonel" here or there; and when, on an occasion of fierce though
temporary despair, he had plunged to the cliff edge with some vague view
to escape, he found several of them close by. We were free—but there
was a string to it.</p>
<p>"They've no unpleasant ones, either," Jeff reminded him.</p>
<p>"Wish they had!" Terry persisted. "They've neither the vices of men, nor
the virtues of women—they're neuters!"</p>
<p>"You know better than that. Don't talk nonsense," said I, severely.</p>
<p>I was thinking of Ellador's eyes when they gave me a certain look, a look
she did not at all realize.</p>
<p>Jeff was equally incensed. "I don't know what 'virtues of women' you miss.
Seems to me they have all of them."</p>
<p>"They've no modesty," snapped Terry. "No patience, no submissiveness, none
of that natural yielding which is woman's greatest charm."</p>
<p>I shook my head pityingly. "Go and apologize and make friends again,
Terry. You've got a grouch, that's all. These women have the virtue of
humanity, with less of its faults than any folks I ever saw. As for
patience—they'd have pitched us over the cliffs the first day we lit
among 'em, if they hadn't that."</p>
<p>"There are no—distractions," he grumbled. "Nowhere a man can go and
cut loose a bit. It's an everlasting parlor and nursery."</p>
<p>"And workshop," I added. "And school, and office, and laboratory, and
studio, and theater, and—home."</p>
<p>"HOME!" he sneered. "There isn't a home in the whole pitiful place."</p>
<p>"There isn't anything else, and you know it," Jeff retorted hotly. "I
never saw, I never dreamed of, such universal peace and good will and
mutual affection."</p>
<p>"Oh, well, of course, if you like a perpetual Sunday school, it's all very
well. But I like Something Doing. Here it's all done."</p>
<p>There was something to this criticism. The years of pioneering lay far
behind them. Theirs was a civilization in which the initial difficulties
had long since been overcome. The untroubled peace, the unmeasured plenty,
the steady health, the large good will and smooth management which ordered
everything, left nothing to overcome. It was like a pleasant family in an
old established, perfectly run country place.</p>
<p>I liked it because of my eager and continued interest in the sociological
achievements involved. Jeff liked it as he would have liked such a family
and such a place anywhere.</p>
<p>Terry did not like it because he found nothing to oppose, to struggle
with, to conquer.</p>
<p>"Life is a struggle, has to be," he insisted. "If there is no struggle,
there is no life—that's all."</p>
<p>"You're talking nonsense—masculine nonsense," the peaceful Jeff
replied. He was certainly a warm defender of Herland. "Ants don't raise
their myriads by a struggle, do they? Or the bees?"</p>
<p>"Oh, if you go back to insects—and want to live in an anthill—!
I tell you the higher grades of life are reached only through struggle—combat.
There's no Drama here. Look at their plays! They make me sick."</p>
<p>He rather had us there. The drama of the country was—to our taste—rather
flat. You see, they lacked the sex motive and, with it, jealousy. They had
no interplay of warring nations, no aristocracy and its ambitions, no
wealth and poverty opposition.</p>
<p>I see I have said little about the economics of the place; it should have
come before, but I'll go on about the drama now.</p>
<p>They had their own kind. There was a most impressive array of pageantry,
of processions, a sort of grand ritual, with their arts and their religion
broadly blended. The very babies joined in it. To see one of their great
annual festivals, with the massed and marching stateliness of those great
mothers, the young women brave and noble, beautiful and strong; and then
the children, taking part as naturally as ours would frolic round a
Christmas tree—it was overpowering in the impression of joyous,
triumphant life.</p>
<p>They had begun at a period when the drama, the dance, music, religion, and
education were all very close together; and instead of developing them in
detached lines, they had kept the connection. Let me try again to give, if
I can, a faint sense of the difference in the life view—the
background and basis on which their culture rested.</p>
<p>Ellador told me a lot about it. She took me to see the children, the
growing girls, the special teachers. She picked out books for me to read.
She always seemed to understand just what I wanted to know, and how to
give it to me.</p>
<p>While Terry and Alima struck sparks and parted—he always madly drawn
to her and she to him—she must have been, or she'd never have stood
the way he behaved—Ellador and I had already a deep, restful
feeling, as if we'd always had one another. Jeff and Celis were happy;
there was no question of that; but it didn't seem to me as if they had the
good times we did.</p>
<p>Well, here is the Herland child facing life—as Ellador tried to show
it to me. From the first memory, they knew Peace, Beauty, Order, Safety,
Love, Wisdom, Justice, Patience, and Plenty. By "plenty" I mean that the
babies grew up in an environment which met their needs, just as young
fawns might grow up in dewy forest glades and brook-fed meadows. And they
enjoyed it as frankly and utterly as the fawns would.</p>
<p>They found themselves in a big bright lovely world, full of the most
interesting and enchanting things to learn about and to do. The people
everywhere were friendly and polite. No Herland child ever met the
overbearing rudeness we so commonly show to children. They were People,
too, from the first; the most precious part of the nation.</p>
<p>In each step of the rich experience of living, they found the instance
they were studying widen out into contact with an endless range of common
interests. The things they learned were RELATED, from the first; related
to one another, and to the national prosperity.</p>
<p>"It was a butterfly that made me a forester," said Ellador. "I was about
eleven years old, and I found a big purple-and-green butterfly on a low
flower. I caught it, very carefully, by the closed wings, as I had been
told to do, and carried it to the nearest insect teacher"—I made a
note there to ask her what on earth an insect teacher was—"to ask
her its name. She took it from me with a little cry of delight. 'Oh, you
blessed child,' she said. 'Do you like obernuts?' Of course I liked
obernuts, and said so. It is our best food-nut, you know. 'This is a
female of the obernut moth,' she told me. 'They are almost gone. We have
been trying to exterminate them for centuries. If you had not caught this
one, it might have laid eggs enough to raise worms enough to destroy
thousands of our nut trees—thousands of bushels of nuts—and
make years and years of trouble for us.'</p>
<p>"Everybody congratulated me. The children all over the country were told
to watch for that moth, if there were any more. I was shown the history of
the creature, and an account of the damage it used to do and of how long
and hard our foremothers had worked to save that tree for us. I grew a
foot, it seemed to me, and determined then and there to be a forester."</p>
<p>This is but an instance; she showed me many. The big difference was that
whereas our children grow up in private homes and families, with every
effort made to protect and seclude them from a dangerous world, here they
grew up in a wide, friendly world, and knew it for theirs, from the first.</p>
<p>Their child-literature was a wonderful thing. I could have spent years
following the delicate subtleties, the smooth simplicities with which they
had bent that great art to the service of the child mind.</p>
<p>We have two life cycles: the man's and the woman's. To the man there is
growth, struggle, conquest, the establishment of his family, and as much
further success in gain or ambition as he can achieve.</p>
<p>To the woman, growth, the securing of a husband, the subordinate
activities of family life, and afterward such "social" or charitable
interests as her position allows.</p>
<p>Here was but one cycle, and that a large one.</p>
<p>The child entered upon a broad open field of life, in which motherhood was
the one great personal contribution to the national life, and all the rest
the individual share in their common activities. Every girl I talked to,
at any age above babyhood, had her cheerful determination as to what she
was going to be when she grew up.</p>
<p>What Terry meant by saying they had no "modesty" was that this great
life-view had no shady places; they had a high sense of personal decorum,
but no shame—no knowledge of anything to be ashamed of.</p>
<p>Even their shortcomings and misdeeds in childhood never were presented to
them as sins; merely as errors and misplays—as in a game. Some of
them, who were palpably less agreeable than others or who had a real
weakness or fault, were treated with cheerful allowance, as a friendly
group at whist would treat a poor player.</p>
<p>Their religion, you see, was maternal; and their ethics, based on the full
perception of evolution, showed the principle of growth and the beauty of
wise culture. They had no theory of the essential opposition of good and
evil; life to them was growth; their pleasure was in growing, and their
duty also.</p>
<p>With this background, with their sublimated mother-love, expressed in
terms of widest social activity, every phase of their work was modified by
its effect on the national growth. The language itself they had
deliberately clarified, simplified, made easy and beautiful, for the sake
of the children.</p>
<p>This seemed to us a wholly incredible thing: first, that any nation should
have the foresight, the strength, and the persistence to plan and fulfill
such a task; and second, that women should have had so much initiative. We
have assumed, as a matter of course, that women had none; that only the
man, with his natural energy and impatience of restriction, would ever
invent anything.</p>
<p>Here we found that the pressure of life upon the environment develops in
the human mind its inventive reactions, regardless of sex; and further,
that a fully awakened motherhood plans and works without limit, for the
good of the child.</p>
<p>That the children might be most nobly born, and reared in an environment
calculated to allow the richest, freest growth, they had deliberately
remodeled and improved the whole state.</p>
<p>I do not mean in the least that they stopped at that, any more than a
child stops at childhood. The most impressive part of their whole culture
beyond this perfect system of child-rearing was the range of interests and
associations open to them all, for life. But in the field of literature I
was most struck, at first, by the child-motive.</p>
<p>They had the same gradation of simple repetitive verse and story that we
are familiar with, and the most exquisite, imaginative tales; but where,
with us, these are the dribbled remnants of ancient folk myths and
primitive lullabies, theirs were the exquisite work of great artists; not
only simple and unfailing in appeal to the child-mind, but TRUE, true to
the living world about them.</p>
<p>To sit in one of their nurseries for a day was to change one's views
forever as to babyhood. The youngest ones, rosy fatlings in their mothers'
arms, or sleeping lightly in the flower-sweet air, seemed natural enough,
save that they never cried. I never heard a child cry in Herland, save
once or twice at a bad fall; and then people ran to help, as we would at a
scream of agony from a grown person.</p>
<p>Each mother had her year of glory; the time to love and learn, living
closely with her child, nursing it proudly, often for two years or more.
This perhaps was one reason for their wonderful vigor.</p>
<p>But after the baby-year the mother was not so constantly in attendance,
unless, indeed, her work was among the little ones. She was never far off,
however, and her attitude toward the co-mothers, whose proud child-service
was direct and continuous, was lovely to see.</p>
<p>As for the babies—a group of those naked darlings playing on short
velvet grass, clean-swept; or rugs as soft; or in shallow pools of bright
water; tumbling over with bubbling joyous baby laughter—it was a
view of infant happiness such as I had never dreamed.</p>
<p>The babies were reared in the warmer part of the country, and gradually
acclimated to the cooler heights as they grew older.</p>
<p>Sturdy children of ten and twelve played in the snow as joyfully as ours
do; there were continuous excursions of them, from one part of the land to
another, so that to each child the whole country might be home.</p>
<p>It was all theirs, waiting for them to learn, to love, to use, to serve;
as our own little boys plan to be "a big soldier," or "a cowboy," or
whatever pleases their fancy; and our little girls plan for the kind of
home they mean to have, or how many children; these planned, freely and
gaily with much happy chattering, of what they would do for the country
when they were grown.</p>
<p>It was the eager happiness of the children and young people which first
made me see the folly of that common notion of ours—that if life was
smooth and happy, people would not enjoy it.</p>
<p>As I studied these youngsters, vigorous, joyous, eager little creatures,
and their voracious appetite for life, it shook my previous ideas so
thoroughly that they have never been re-established. The steady level of
good health gave them all that natural stimulus we used to call "animal
spirits"—an odd contradiction in terms. They found themselves in an
immediate environment which was agreeable and interesting, and before them
stretched the years of learning and discovery, the fascinating, endless
process of education.</p>
<p>As I looked into these methods and compared them with our own, my strange
uncomfortable sense of race-humility grew apace.</p>
<p>Ellador could not understand my astonishment. She explained things kindly
and sweetly, but with some amazement that they needed explaining, and with
sudden questions as to how we did it that left me meeker than ever.</p>
<p>I betook myself to Somel one day, carefully not taking Ellador. I did not
mind seeming foolish to Somel—she was used to it.</p>
<p>"I want a chapter of explanation," I told her. "You know my stupidities by
heart, and I do not want to show them to Ellador—she thinks me so
wise!"</p>
<p>She smiled delightedly. "It is beautiful to see," she told me, "this new
wonderful love between you. The whole country is interested, you know—how
can we help it!"</p>
<p>I had not thought of that. We say: "All the world loves a lover," but to
have a couple of million people watching one's courtship—and that a
difficult one—was rather embarrassing.</p>
<p>"Tell me about your theory of education," I said. "Make it short and easy.
And, to show you what puzzles me, I'll tell you that in our theory great
stress is laid on the forced exertion of the child's mind; we think it is
good for him to overcome obstacles."</p>
<p>"Of course it is," she unexpectedly agreed. "All our children do that—they
love to."</p>
<p>That puzzled me again. If they loved to do it, how could it be
educational?</p>
<p>"Our theory is this," she went on carefully. "Here is a young human being.
The mind is as natural a thing as the body, a thing that grows, a thing to
use and enjoy. We seek to nourish, to stimulate, to exercise the mind of a
child as we do the body. There are the two main divisions in education—you
have those of course?—the things it is necessary to know, and the
things it is necessary to do."</p>
<p>"To do? Mental exercises, you mean?"</p>
<p>"Yes. Our general plan is this: In the matter of feeding the mind, of
furnishing information, we use our best powers to meet the natural
appetite of a healthy young brain; not to overfeed it, to provide such
amount and variety of impressions as seem most welcome to each child. That
is the easiest part. The other division is in arranging a properly
graduated series of exercises which will best develop each mind; the
common faculties we all have, and most carefully, the especial faculties
some of us have. You do this also, do you not?"</p>
<p>"In a way," I said rather lamely. "We have not so subtle and highly
developed a system as you, not approaching it; but tell me more. As to the
information—how do you manage? It appears that all of you know
pretty much everything—is that right?"</p>
<p>This she laughingly disclaimed. "By no means. We are, as you soon found
out, extremely limited in knowledge. I wish you could realize what a
ferment the country is in over the new things you have told us; the
passionate eagerness among thousands of us to go to your country and learn—learn—learn!
But what we do know is readily divisible into common knowledge and special
knowledge. The common knowledge we have long since learned to feed into
the minds of our little ones with no waste of time or strength; the
special knowledge is open to all, as they desire it. Some of us specialize
in one line only. But most take up several—some for their regular
work, some to grow with."</p>
<p>"To grow with?"</p>
<p>"Yes. When one settles too close in one kind of work there is a tendency
to atrophy in the disused portions of the brain. We like to keep on
learning, always."</p>
<p>"What do you study?"</p>
<p>"As much as we know of the different sciences. We have, within our limits,
a good deal of knowledge of anatomy, physiology, nutrition—all that
pertains to a full and beautiful personal life. We have our botany and
chemistry, and so on—very rudimentary, but interesting; our own
history, with its accumulating psychology."</p>
<p>"You put psychology with history—not with personal life?"</p>
<p>"Of course. It is ours; it is among and between us, and it changes with
the succeeding and improving generations. We are at work, slowly and
carefully, developing our whole people along these lines. It is glorious
work—splendid! To see the thousands of babies improving, showing
stronger clearer minds, sweeter dispositions, higher capacities—don't
you find it so in your country?"</p>
<p>This I evaded flatly. I remembered the cheerless claim that the human mind
was no better than in its earliest period of savagery, only better
informed—a statement I had never believed.</p>
<p>"We try most earnestly for two powers," Somel continued. "The two that
seem to us basically necessary for all noble life: a clear, far-reaching
judgment, and a strong well-used will. We spend our best efforts, all
through childhood and youth, in developing these faculties, individual
judgment and will."</p>
<p>"As part of your system of education, you mean?"</p>
<p>"Exactly. As the most valuable part. With the babies, as you may have
noticed, we first provide an environment which feeds the mind without
tiring it; all manner of simple and interesting things to do, as soon as
they are old enough to do them; physical properties, of course, come
first. But as early as possible, going very carefully, not to tax the
mind, we provide choices, simple choices, with very obvious causes and
consequences. You've noticed the games?"</p>
<p>I had. The children seemed always playing something; or else, sometimes,
engaged in peaceful researches of their own. I had wondered at first when
they went to school, but soon found that they never did—to their
knowledge. It was all education but no schooling.</p>
<p>"We have been working for some sixteen hundred years, devising better and
better games for children," continued Somel.</p>
<p>I sat aghast. "Devising games?" I protested. "Making up new ones, you
mean?"</p>
<p>"Exactly," she answered. "Don't you?"</p>
<p>Then I remembered the kindergarten, and the "material" devised by Signora
Montessori, and guardedly replied: "To some extent." But most of our
games, I told her, were very old—came down from child to child,
along the ages, from the remote past.</p>
<p>"And what is their effect?" she asked. "Do they develop the faculties you
wish to encourage?"</p>
<p>Again I remembered the claims made by the advocates of "sports," and again
replied guardedly that that was, in part, the theory.</p>
<p>"But do the children LIKE it?" I asked. "Having things made up and set
before them that way? Don't they want the old games?"</p>
<p>"You can see the children," she answered. "Are yours more contented—more
interested—happier?"</p>
<p>Then I thought, as in truth I never had thought before, of the dull, bored
children I had seen, whining; "What can I do now?"; of the little groups
and gangs hanging about; of the value of some one strong spirit who
possessed initiative and would "start something"; of the children's
parties and the onerous duties of the older people set to "amuse the
children"; also of that troubled ocean of misdirected activity we call
"mischief," the foolish, destructive, sometimes evil things done by
unoccupied children.</p>
<p>"No," said I grimly. "I don't think they are."</p>
<p>The Herland child was born not only into a world carefully prepared, full
of the most fascinating materials and opportunities to learn, but into the
society of plentiful numbers of teachers, teachers born and trained, whose
business it was to accompany the children along that, to us, impossible
thing—the royal road to learning.</p>
<p>There was no mystery in their methods. Being adapted to children it was at
least comprehensible to adults. I spent many days with the little ones,
sometimes with Ellador, sometimes without, and began to feel a crushing
pity for my own childhood, and for all others that I had known.</p>
<p>The houses and gardens planned for babies had in them nothing to hurt—no
stairs, no corners, no small loose objects to swallow, no fire—just
a babies' paradise. They were taught, as rapidly as feasible, to use and
control their own bodies, and never did I see such sure-footed,
steady-handed, clear-headed little things. It was a joy to watch a row of
toddlers learning to walk, not only on a level floor, but, a little later,
on a sort of rubber rail raised an inch or two above the soft turf or
heavy rugs, and falling off with shrieks of infant joy, to rush back to
the end of the line and try again. Surely we have noticed how children
love to get up on something and walk along it! But we have never thought
to provide that simple and inexhaustible form of amusement and physical
education for the young.</p>
<p>Water they had, of course, and could swim even before they walked. If I
feared at first the effects of a too intensive system of culture, that
fear was dissipated by seeing the long sunny days of pure physical
merriment and natural sleep in which these heavenly babies passed their
first years. They never knew they were being educated. They did not dream
that in this association of hilarious experiment and achievement they were
laying the foundation for that close beautiful group feeling into which
they grew so firmly with the years. This was education for citizenship.</p>
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